Last time, we discussed the importance of revisiting our story of Singlehood and how the story either limits or empowers us. Today, the focus is on the little things we do that sabotage our opportunities of finding or being found by a potential spouse. Generally, you hear people say, be yourself, you don’t need to change who you are to attract the woman or the man of your dreams. This is good advice if you are presently living your best version. Life is constantly progressive and to keep succeeding, we must constantly change and adapt. If being yourself means ‘saying things the way they come to your mind’ in a bid to be ‘real’, it is little wonder that guys keep showing up and taking off through the next available exit. Many single ladies have damaged countless potential relationships while they were still at their fragile stage.
On the other hand, if as a guy you keep telling your date that she is fat, talks too much, laughs too much with guys, etc., you may have noticed that the only people you are attracting are people who can put up with your verbal bashing because they are already low on esteem.
The point here is this, don’t claim you are being yourself, if your present version is alienating and ruining the people you are trying to attract. We can teach you relationship principles, steps to getting found or finding a great lady, but if your attitude doesn’t improve, you would only attract, but not keep them.
What complaints have people made about you? What feedbacks do you get regularly?
Make a list and get to work. When you get better and emotionally healthy, you will end up attracting someone at your new level.
To be continued…
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Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance & Relationship Catalysts
This is awesome. Thanks… Spot on
Thank you so much great man
You guys bless me! You may not see the results NOW, but time will tell. Keep up the good work!
We bless the Lord! Thanks for your kind words.