The Hidden School of Marriage! By Chidi and Victor Akunna

We have different schools where the tripartite nature of man is cared for. We have Fashion schools, Finishing schools, Catering schools, Fitness schools, Business schools, Universities and so on. How about Marriage School? Where do we learn how to get married and stay romantically married? Well, many exceptional individuals and organizations across the globe have set up wonderful schools, certification programs, movies, seminars, devotionals, facebook posts, etc.. These help to instil the right attitude and belief systems, enabling us take the right actions in our marriages. They have gone a long way in rebuilding broken relationships and marriages.

However, we would like to focus on the next generation. We looked up the statistics on cohabitation and found out that it is hugely on the increase. This implies that the number of young people deciding to get married is dropping. Well, why get married when those who are married are looking for a way out? Why get married? They may ask, when every channel they tune into often bombards them with stories of bitter divorce of highly respected citizens. The logic is, if people that are ‘better’ than me can’t get it right, why should I think I would?

Well, truth be told, such situations may have an impact, but we think that the home in which we grow up has more impact. The home is our first school of marriage, this is where we learn how to be treated by a husband/wife, who a husband/wife is, what a family looks like, how to love and be loved. For couples, this implies that every time you spend time with your spouse without the interruption of your mobile device; every time you choose to help your wife change the baby’s nappy or prepare a family meal, rather than catch up on a football match; every time you speak to your husband with honour; every time you put the house in shape; and every time you invest in date-nights with your spouse, you school your children on the principles of a happy marriage.

Today, we urge you to be a conscious and deliberate teacher. When you feel disappointed at your spouse, rather than scream and embarrass him/her before the children, choose the more mature approach. “Train up your children in the way to go and when they grow up, they would not depart from it”. Let’s rebuild our communities by starting with our homes. A romantic marriage is simply one right decision at a time.

Chidi & Victor Akunna
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