Today, we will be considering the impact of negative memories.
As a little child, I had good memories of Christmas, I was always fascinated and enraptured by the season. It was often an opportunity to try on new clothes, travel, visit, enjoy a wonderful time with my family, etc.. You probably would understand the experience, yours may have been during thanksgiving, birthdays,…; the mood and atmosphere are often electrifying. In the same way, we have people we look forward to seeing, people who create pleasant memories and experiences. It becomes a challenge when our spouses are not on that list.
There are spouses who don’t enjoy each other’s company at all. As a matter of fact, they are often happy when their spouses travel because they can finally have some peace and freedom from all the arguments, mean words, silent treatment, telling off before the children, etc.. The fact is that people do their best to avoid pain and anyone who is the source of it. On the other hand, some couples can’t wait to see each other, every moment is savoured, they act like young lovers (teenagers in love).
The accumulation of negative experiences and memories could stab the ‘heart’ of any marriage, thereby, leading to a failed marriage. Are your memories of your spouse and marriage appalling and painful? What are you doing about it? Have you given up on trying?
ACTION POINT: Building positive experiences and romantic memories must be deliberate. You may have to get a counsellor involved.
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