Our Romance Story – By Adetunji and Megan Adewumi

FFA: Thank you for being willing to share your Romance Story with us. Please introduce yourselves.

Pastor Tunji is first and foremost a Pastor by vocation and a BSc (Hons) holder in Information Technology. Pastor T, as he is affectionately known, is also an established businessman in the Property Development Arena as well as a Business Solutions Developer in Southern Africa.

At his side is the compassionate Daughter of Zion, Lady Megan, who holds her qualification in Marketing Management. She’s a Leader in the banking sector.

We both founded J-Nissi Outreach Centre, a non-profit organization that brings hope to the hopeless, caring for the hungry and sharing the Word of God to the captives for their release from the bondage of the enemy.

We are blessed with Adebayo, our 20 month old son who we hold dear to our hearts.

FFA: Wow! You are very committed to adding value, despite your tight schedule. How long have you been married?

We have been married for 2 years. We will be celebrating our 3rd year in September this year.

 FFA: Awesome! What attracted her to you?

Wow! I was attracted by her sweet spirit, her beauty and the way she comported herself. Also, she loves to see me succeed in what God has called me to do.

FFA: Phenomenal! What a supportive wife! Would you want to share how you met?

We met at church, it was a Saturday afternoon, she drove into the church compound, I think she came for Sunday School Teachers’ Meeting. I had never seen her before then and the Spirit of God said to me, “that’s your wife.” I didn’t go to approach her. I met her again at the overnight prayers, I went to introduce myself and we became friends and today we are husband and wife. Glory be to God!

FFA: Hooo…hooo….! Even though you knew you were meant to be together, you had to establish friendship with her. It is always great to build friendship. That’s beautiful. How did you propose?

It was my birthday, I invited Megan and her family for dinner. The dinner ended with me proposing to my lady in a restaurant full of people. It was a huge surprise to them all.

FFA: Wow! I can imagine. Good thing she said YES!

How do you fill your romance-tank and improve intimacy?

By observation; little things matter a lot to my wife, knowing what she wants at a particular time and meeting it. It varies from giving her attention, giving her gifts, holding her and listening to her, because I tend to talk a lot, lol…

FFA: How sweet! You deliberately choose to do those things that appeal to her per time, even when not convenient. That’s what we call #SelflessSpouse. Ma’am, do you want to add anything?

My husband enjoys the finer things in life, so treating him like the king that he is and sticking to pet names makes a world of a difference and keeps the spark alive.

FFA: Thanks for those tips. Do you have family rituals/routines that bind you together?

We pray together – with and for each other.

We go for holidays – Going for holidays have allowed us to unwind and share our differences in a romantic way.

We do drive around together, just talking.

We communicate – we agree to disagree at times and this allows us to meet common ground.

FFA: Awesome! It’s always a great idea to be deliberate about investing time to bond with each other! What challenges have you had to navigate through so far in marriage?

First one is cultural diversity.

We have been able to navigate through this challenge by learning to understand each other’s culture and appreciating them. Compromise is the key here.

FFA: Talking about cultural diversity, how have you been able to manage cultural diversity effectively?

We have been able to manage cultural diversity effectively by understanding a whole new culture; finding out the dos and don’ts of each other’s cultures.

We have learnt a lot by example; seeing other intercultural marriages move through life, especially older couples who have been married for decades. We watch how they relate. How they navigate life has been valuable to us. Also, we have made the Word of God our standard of culture.

FFA: Amazing! We don’t really have to go through the same challenges some people went through if we learn from their experience. Thanks for that. Please go on.

Second is Communication

My wife likes details, but I’m not into the details in most cases. However, we have learnt to deal with this in each other’s ideal way of communication. She tends to ask questions for clarity.

 FFA: Hmmm… “ask questions for clarity”, what you heard may not be what was meant! Assumptions are not necessarily the true state of things. What advice do you have for singles/the engaged?

My advice to the singles is to work on themselves. Don’t look for someone to complete you. You must be whole as an individual. Pray for the right partner. Being single is not a sickness. God loves you as you are. He will perfect your marital life at the right time.

FFA: Wow, that is deep…”you must be whole as an individual”!

My advice to the engaged is to get married. What are you waiting for? Some would say, I just want to know him or her. It’s a lifetime of discovery. Take that bold step of marriage. Two are better than one!

FFA: What advice would you give to those planning their wedding?

Pray! A Christ-centred wedding begins with a Christ-centred heart. Prayer helps to Prepare for a Christ-centred marriage. Spend personal time in prayer leading to the wedding, asking God to work in your heart through his Holy Spirit to make you the husband or wife he would have you be. Study the life and words of Jesus, and pray for grace and strength to live in the freedom and joy of what He has done for you. Treat each other with the love and mercy of Christ.

Distinguish between the essentials and the non-essentials. You don’t have to impress anybody, don’t over-spend. The real life begins after the wedding day.

FFA: Absolutely! After the wedding comes marriage. Any encouraging words for couples going through a challenging time?

Pray, listen to each other and be calm.

FFA: Thanks for these great tips. Prayer often gives us access to divine solutions to any marital issue. In addition to this, we often tell couples to go for wisdom because the solution to any challenge would most likely have been packaged in a book, a seminar, a course or a coaching intervention. This is why we run Romance Makeover with couples that want to improve their marital intimacy as they boost their romance. Thank you so much for sharing your Romance Story.

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