“I am a 31-years old man in love with a 34-years old lady. I introduced her to my parents early last year, but my parents have refused to bless the relationship. This is the 11th month and none of them is shifting their position.
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U just have to be patient, they would still shift ground and succumb to ur wish. Try involving family members that can influence your parent to talk to them.
The guy should seat with his parent , most especially his father ( men are more logical) for better understanding why the rejection. This is Africa , Nija for that matter. No matter what, we can’t separate in -laws from marriages in this part of the world we can only minimize interference.
At every point in time as long as they are alive you would need them for one thing or the other, if he goes ahead against their wish, the woman would be victimised & at this point he would be powerless.
So my 2kobo is seek your parents concert on both sides if not quit, there is no legal / spiritual binding yet. God bless you.
I realise this is weird in the African culture. However, if she is your wife as destined by God then your parent would sure grant their. Love will conquer with time. All you have to do now is to keep praying.
I think you as the man should seat back and ask yourself why your parents are opposed to the union, look at it from their point, if it’s only the age issue then that is minute but if your parents have other reasons for disagreeing to your union,find out before you make any mistake. Most times, love really blinds us to certain things that another party especially our parents can see. Thanks, God bless.
If age is the ONLY reason your parents advanced for denying to bless your union with your wife-to-be, then I don’t think you have any problem. It’s only as good as u think it, or as bad as you think it. You’re adults and I presume you know what is good for you. If it’s the will of God, proceed with marriage plans; whoever would come along, would come along.
“I am a 31-years old man in love with a 34-years old lady. I introduced her to my parents early last year, but my parents have refused to bless the relationship. This is the 11th month and none of them is shifting their position.
Some people think that the man may later be disrespected, especially if he is the age of his wife’s younger brother. Is this always true?
U just have to be patient, they would still shift ground and succumb to ur wish. Try involving family members that can influence your parent to talk to them.
The guy should seat with his parent , most especially his father ( men are more logical) for better understanding why the rejection. This is Africa , Nija for that matter. No matter what, we can’t separate in -laws from marriages in this part of the world we can only minimize interference.
At every point in time as long as they are alive you would need them for one thing or the other, if he goes ahead against their wish, the woman would be victimised & at this point he would be powerless.
So my 2kobo is seek your parents concert on both sides if not quit, there is no legal / spiritual binding yet. God bless you.
I realise this is weird in the African culture. However, if she is your wife as destined by God then your parent would sure grant their. Love will conquer with time. All you have to do now is to keep praying.
Preference, some people do mind and some don’t. What matters is one’s happiness in the end.
I think you as the man should seat back and ask yourself why your parents are opposed to the union, look at it from their point, if it’s only the age issue then that is minute but if your parents have other reasons for disagreeing to your union,find out before you make any mistake. Most times, love really blinds us to certain things that another party especially our parents can see. Thanks, God bless.
If age is the ONLY reason your parents advanced for denying to bless your union with your wife-to-be, then I don’t think you have any problem. It’s only as good as u think it, or as bad as you think it. You’re adults and I presume you know what is good for you. If it’s the will of God, proceed with marriage plans; whoever would come along, would come along.