Our relationships and marriage are products of our wellbeing, inner state, emotions, beliefs about ourselves, our spouses and people in general. Hence, to fix any relationship, you must ‘fix’ the people within it. Marriages don’t go for counselling, people do. It is unhealthy to neglect your wellbeing by working non-stop, without a break to replenish and reconnect with your inner-self, which is the real you.
Sometimes, people, particularly mums, work so hard, caring for their children, husbands, careers and their homes, without caring for themselves. Other times, you see men work almost round the clock to provide for the family, meet a target, grow the business, move the ministry forward, without rest. Such cases have led many to fall into ‘emptiness syndrome’ (feeling of emptiness and discouragement which people sometimes experience immediately after achieving a major feat).
On the other hand, I have seen marriages in which one partner carries all the responsibilities of the family, while the other partner simply places demands. One partner pays the rent, mortgage, arranges for things around the house to be fixed, cooks, does school runs, laundry, etc.. Such marriages are like a gallon of inflammable, waiting for an igniting matchstick.
Action Points
1. Set aside a day in the week to reconnect with your inner-self; don’t watch life drag you on, give it direction.
2. Invest in your relationship; prioritise having time together e.g. Date nights
3. Strengthen team spirit within your family by supporting each other; don’t abandon your responsibilities.
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Victor Akunna is a Romance Coach; he helps new and middle-aged couples transform their overwhelmingly boring relationships/marriages into Romantic adventures in record time.
Honestly, I need a break! I think we love better when we rest well.
Indeed! After a good rest, we are often more romantic. Take a break!