Frustrated? When your efforts seem not to add up.

Sometimes, the results from our effort can be demoralising. We do the best we know, yet it seems that those who don’t put in half as much as we do seem to get ahead in life.

You are determined to be chaste, no one is asking you out, but your friend who is a single mother just got married.

You have sent in a number of applications, with no positive response, but some people get hired straight from the university.

There are times our results are not commensurate with our effort; such times can be overwhelming, frustrating and demoralizing. However, we would like to encourage you not to give up.

Don’t give up on your dream of getting married, starting your own business, embarking on further studies, having a baby. Don’t give up!!! There is a process involved in any desired outcome, to get the result without the process may short-circuit the victory. The process is part of the result, this is when character is formed and enhanced. This is when our conviction, strength and lasting foundation are built. Fame without the process has become a curse to many. The media is filled with stories of individuals who got famous before developing their moral compass and a sense of identity. Their light was cut short in their prime.

Having said that, we must also highlight that there is a way to get any result we desire. Every goal has a specific demand, just like every meal has a recipe, throwing in just anything into the pot (effort), without following the recipe and instruction would not produce the required result. When things are not working as you desire, rather than get angry and frustrated, get curious and explore. Look around for people who are producing that result to find out what they know and do, build the mental model (neuro-pathway) for that result and you will see it manifest in your life.

Two days ago, I took a look at an area of my life and I was amazed that where I am now was a huge stretch some time ago, here I am today, it has become my daily occurrence. What changed? I changed. When you change within, your external realities would adjust. The frustration happens when you are trying to get on the outside what you have not gotten in your heart.

If you want a better job, the first thing to do is not to send out applications or start networking, those are outward things. The first thing to do is to make the inner adjustment. This same principle applies to getting married, the principle is first within and then without. Some people do this through meditation, we pray for God to open our eyes to see what we need to do, then as we study, the right scriptures “jump at us”. This scripture is what we confess and meditate upon until the internal transformation process is complete which without fail births the external results.

Chidi & Victor Akunna
Foundation For Family Affairs
www.foundationforfamilyaffairs.org