“As a little child, I loved my father, he was friendly and easygoing. Whenever, I needed to spend more time at my friend’s place, he was often the one I called because I knew he would “understand”. Growing up was fun, I was doted on. However, now that I am a father, I have observed that as a little boy, I needed more than a buddy. I needed a mentor and a role model. Much more than that, I needed boundaries. Without boundaries, children can self-destruct. In fact, my wife says that I have an “entitlement” mindset, that I expect the world to serve me. This hurts, but I know what she means.”
Fatherhood is the most important role, next to being a husband. Statistics show that most social ills such as teenage pregnancies, gangsterism, drug abuse, early incarceration, etc., can be traced to fatherlessness. There are no perfect fathers, but a father must give identity to his children and model the family’s vision and values. These things don’t happen by chance, we must be deliberate about them.
Sons often learn from their fathers how to tackle life’s challenges, relate with women, be gentlemen, etc., while daughters learn how to be treated by men.
Why do you father your children the way you do? Are you aware that a casual disapproving comment from you can become their future reality? Just like the man who became a workaholic – slaving away at work to prove wrong a comment his father made when he was 10 years old, that he was lazy. Help your children discover and release their potentials. Make the sacrifice; action speaks louder than words.
ACTION POINT: Be a deliberate and active father. The world has too many wounded adults than it can manage.
Culled from our Connected Hearts Daily Devotional 2.0 (C) 2015
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