Some years ago, I led a wild life, made some wrong decisions which are presently affecting my ability to give birth. I have not been able to tell my husband the whole story. Right now, he is seriously concern and he has suggested we run a comprehensive medical test, do I tell him? I am afraid of losing him. Please, what do I do?
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How is she sure its her wayward past life that’s the problem? Has she done tests? Or has a doctor told her she can’t have kids? As someone that waited abit to have children, I know a lot of issues could be the reason. She shouldn’t jump into conclusions. I was convinced my past life was the issue back then too. She should take the tests in faith. Although she still needs to tell her husband the truth about her past. I know it will be difficult under these circumstances but he still needs to know. He will hurt or even get angry. It could even put the marriage in jeopardy but he deserves to know the truth about you if you truly love him. Christ not only redeems us from sin but also from its consequences. Have faith sister and God bless.
1. REPENT: the beginning of a new life starts from TRUE REPENTANCE; doing this will draw God’s attention
to her case.
2. TRUE CONFESSION: this will disconnect or break the hold of her past and give her boldness to face the new life.
3. RESPONSIBILITY: She must be ready to bear consequences of her husbands reaction and decision! She should bear it in mind that, whether she tells the truth or lies, there will be consequences she should be ready to live with! But, she’ll only have God’s support to go through anything if and only if she tells the Truth. And if God see her efforts, according to His will for every wrong-doer/repentant being; HE may have compassion and Restore ALL she has lost to her wild past! Wishing you all the best.
Hmmm……its a difficult situation.
You shd pray over it that God shd ease his heart after telling him.find the perfect time for such confession & the earlier the better so U̶̲̥̅̊я̩̥̊ heart can be @ peace.
Your past might have little or nothing to do with your present predicament but you still owe your husband that history……pray to God for forgiveness,mercy and a second chance………take the bold step of faith and follow you husband to take the test,who knows you might not be the reason for your delay……..its better to tell the truth and leave in peace than to hold-back and die of guilt……however do yourself a favor by not holding on to the past.
The Bible says that …’the heart of a king is in the hands of God and He wills (Directs) it as He please’… take this seemingly difficult situation to ur Father and watch Him make it all simple. your husband would get mad but I bet he’ll love you even more. This is when ‘his love’ is tried….
How is she sure its her wayward past life that’s the problem? Has she done tests? Or has a doctor told her she can’t have kids? As someone that waited abit to have children, I know a lot of issues could be the reason. She shouldn’t jump into conclusions. I was convinced my past life was the issue back then too. She should take the tests in faith. Although she still needs to tell her husband the truth about her past. I know it will be difficult under these circumstances but he still needs to know. He will hurt or even get angry. It could even put the marriage in jeopardy but he deserves to know the truth about you if you truly love him. Christ not only redeems us from sin but also from its consequences. Have faith sister and God bless.
I like your first question – thinking outside the box. What if her husband is not able to manage the information?
I guess that is an outcome she has to be ready to face. This is a discussion they should have had before marriage. She can only hope for the best.
I have Three-Point-Advice for her:
1. REPENT: the beginning of a new life starts from TRUE REPENTANCE; doing this will draw God’s attention
to her case.
2. TRUE CONFESSION: this will disconnect or break the hold of her past and give her boldness to face the new life.
3. RESPONSIBILITY: She must be ready to bear consequences of her husbands reaction and decision! She should bear it in mind that, whether she tells the truth or lies, there will be consequences she should be ready to live with! But, she’ll only have God’s support to go through anything if and only if she tells the Truth. And if God see her efforts, according to His will for every wrong-doer/repentant being; HE may have compassion and Restore ALL she has lost to her wild past! Wishing you all the best.
True great man, God has a way of stepping into situations especially when He sees our sincere heart.
Hmmm……its a difficult situation.
You shd pray over it that God shd ease his heart after telling him.find the perfect time for such confession & the earlier the better so U̶̲̥̅̊я̩̥̊ heart can be @ peace.
Nice one @ Nafisat, there is a way and the time to share sensitive information.
Your past might have little or nothing to do with your present predicament but you still owe your husband that history……pray to God for forgiveness,mercy and a second chance………take the bold step of faith and follow you husband to take the test,who knows you might not be the reason for your delay……..its better to tell the truth and leave in peace than to hold-back and die of guilt……however do yourself a favor by not holding on to the past.
Awesome @ Olamilekan “…do yourself a favor by not holding on to the past.”
The Bible says that …’the heart of a king is in the hands of God and He wills (Directs) it as He please’… take this seemingly difficult situation to ur Father and watch Him make it all simple. your husband would get mad but I bet he’ll love you even more. This is when ‘his love’ is tried….
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