Compatibility
Compatibility is critical to relationships, especially marriage. If you would be living the rest of your life with your spouse, it would be a great idea to be compatible.
The Oxford Dictionary defines compatibility “as a state in which two things are able to exist or occur together without problems or conflict.” This simply means that it is not necessarily about being the same, that would be boring and predictable. It is about having a common ground, sharing common values (can two work together unless they agree?), sometimes being opposite, but connecting well.
An introvert does not need to marry another introvert to have a happy marriage. However, every couple needs to share common values, know and accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
We are different from each other in a lot of ways, but we have found ways to harness our differences synergistically. For instance, when we worked on our books together, our skills, backgrounds, experiences and personalities played different roles in producing the final work.
Similarity
Even when we have similar strengths and weaknesses in specific areas, we have learnt to allow benchmarks, such as who was available at the time, who has a better skill in that specific area, etc., to determine who takes charge. It is not about who takes the credit, but about accomplishing our objectives.
We must accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses and above all, discuss and clarify our values and expectations, if we are to enjoy a deeper level of intimacy.
How would you rate your marital intimacy, with 0 being the least and 10 being the highest?
Chidi & Victor Akunna
Romance & Intimacy Catalysts
Foundation for Family Affairs
Chidi & Victor Akunna are leading voices on marital romance and family life. We are passionate about helping individuals, couples and organisations build sustainable and valuable relationships, and testimonials abound. They are authors of many articles and books such as Spicy Romance, Dynamic of Marriage, Bedroom Makeover Plus and Health and Wealth Acceleration,
They partner in the administration of “Romance Masterclass” – a coaching programme and “Lite the FIRE” workshop – a couples’ romance makeover intervention. Together, they write “Connected Hearts” – a leading daily devotional on spicing up marital romance and strengthening families. They also oversee the operations of Foundation for Family Affairs – a charity focused on strengthening families around the globe.
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